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Treatment of Gay Violence
Violence might happen to be as much a part of the gay couple's life together as a straight couple's life. Gay couples face similar traumas, the way it happens in a heterosexual marriage, that a partner might be possessive, or might display insecurities. The types of abuse may assume any of the forms like, physical abuse involving usage of pressure while performing a sexual act or worse still it might involve something like hitting, punching etc. At times it might just so happen that the abuser might inflict some psychological abuse like stalking, name calling, issuing threats of coming out etc. The treatment to the gay violence lies in getting help from a therapist. However, before you zero in on a therapist it is imperative to find out his stance and his understanding of the gay psychology. For the therapists it translates into walking on a relatively difficult and unfamiliar terrain. The onus on a psychologist happens to be even greater as in the absence of the resources that the victim can turn to; the psychologist will also have to play the role of a confidante as well as a friend. The treatment for the gay couples will also mean working out on a place of refuge for the victim which spells out the circumstances under which the victim will leave home. In such a case the therapist will be there to assist the victim. The therapist should ensure that the refuge happens to be a place that the abuser is unaware of. It is also important to decide as to whom to go to, as it is imperative that the people the victim chooses to stay with should be sensitive to the pains that he has gone through. Undeniably getting a therapy as a couple has its own share of benefits such as getting both the sides of the story, this also happens to be a safe refuge for discussion and bringing about points that might be sensitive and would normally turn into a fight. With a therapist in place several remedial measures can be taken such as the abuser might be made to sign a "no violence" contract, which as the name suggests is indicative of the fact that there shouldn't be any violence. And in case it occurs then the therapist must be informed within a day. A "no violence" contract will also mean that the abuser isn't going to cast any threats of violence. Another aspect that can be improvised upon is avoidance of certain issues that are known to rake up unpleasant feelings. The treatment for the batterer might involve going a step further and enrolling into something of the sort of anger management classes or individual therapy. |
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